Successful co-parenting during the summer

Co-parenting during the summer may require some alterations to a successful school year schedule.

Summer is upon us, and with the warmer weather often come certain challenges to parents' well-established parenting plans. When children are home during summer vacation, parents often find that the schedule they established to care for the children during the school year no longer works.

Consequently, parents may find it is beneficial to revisit their parenting plan during the summer to determine if any modifications are necessary. Even if parents intend to revert to the original plan during the next school year, it can be helpful to establish new guidelines for the summer months.

In addition, parents may find it helpful to review suggestions for co-parenting effectively before the challenging ambiguity of summer schedules creates tension between divorced parents.

Create as much consistency as possible

As children's schedules are often flexible during the summer, it is a good idea to maintain consistency in other areas, whenever possible. For instance, establish set bedtimes for the children that are followed in both households.

In addition, when physical custody of the children is shared, both parents may find it to be helpful - for children and adults alike - to post a schedule. When a written calendar is readily available, children can easily check to see when they will be with each parent. Even if the schedule is somewhat different each week in the summer, children will be comforted by knowing where they will be on a given day.

Don't use your child as a messenger

Of course, to establish this consistency, you will need to find a way to communicate with your former spouse. These days, many parents find texting or other forms of written communication to be the easiest method, as arguments are less likely to develop when both sides have a chance to think about their responses.

Some parents may be tempted to send messages to the other parent via their children. For the sake of the children, it is best to communicate with your former spouse directly, rather than using your child as an intermediary. Even if the message is banal, asking your child to deliver it can be difficult, making the child feel as though he or she is stuck between the two parents.

If you have been thinking about divorcing your spouse or are considering modifications to an existing child custody agreement, you need a skilled family law attorney on your side. Consider discussing your case with a legal professional, who will work with you to ensure your rights are protected.

Keywords: co-parenting, custody, divorce