So, your little boy or girl is all grown up, and they are set to walk the stage for their high school graduation. This is a time of celebration and joy for most families, but things can get a little tricky for those who have been sharing joint custody of their child. The truth remains that divorce is difficult for most families to navigate, and its aftereffects can be felt at many major life events. Parents of 2014 grads are therefore urged to keep their cool during the festivities; a positive attitude and compassionate demeanor can go a long way in promoting harmony within even a divorced family.
Families of Pennsylvania graduates are encouraged to plan ahead to avoid conflict. You plan ahead for every summer and Christmas vacation, for instance -- you need to use those skills for graduation, as well. Make sure that you and your ex both have tickets to the graduation. The theme of this experience could be classified as "sharing." Share the graduation tickets, the photographs and the memories with your ex. That person is just as much of a parent to your child as you are, so it is important to remain gracious and poised throughout the experience.
Parents can easily derail a graduation celebration by adopting a competitive attitude. Avoid scheduling two separate celebrations for your new grad. You should be working together with your ex, not pitting yourself against your child's other parent. Negative comments directed toward your ex should also be avoided on this momentous day.
Your child is moving toward adulthood. Kids need positive role models to help them understand how to treat others as they transition into the "real world." You and your ex can set great examples by continuing to act in the best interests of the child, even after your youngster graduates from high school.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Do's and Don'ts for Divorced Parents of 2014 Grads" Diane L. Danois, Jun. 02, 2014